My Role as Father
Manifesto - Italy, 2025 - (versione italiana qui)
In the Western Fatherless Society (or feminized society), many children find themselves growing up alone, lost, without a moral and spiritual Guide, a point of reference that can lead them towards Knowledge.
Yes, because today over 40% of children and sons grow up without a biological father at home (2025).
Therefore, this page was created with the aim of helping all those young men aged 20, 30 or over who want to understand themselves, become adult men, and understand the Meaning of life. Yes... because when a person cannot find a deep meaning in life he distracts himself with pleasure, said Viktor Frankl, a 20th-century neurologist and philosopher.
Giving this Awareness is my job as a father: a dad is not only the parent of his children but of all the children of the world.
Men and women are not the same as they try to make you believe.
We are different biologically, instinctively, historically and culturally, and as long as we are born male and female, we will inevitably live complementarily and cooperatively.
We can reject this diversity (conflicting as it happens today) or accept it, dancing together according to the rules of Nature that over time have shaped us as we are today.
Without Man there would not have been, there is not and there will not be evolution.
There is no technique, technology, medicine, discovery, law, philosophy or religion, that has not been forged by the hands and mind of a man.
Today, in the opulence and daze of material well-being, ignorance, creeping misanthropy, disrespect for men and males, we forget that everything we have (cities and their functioning, electricity, road systems, sciences and disciplines, art, moral laws allowing peace and coexistence) everything was created by Men.
So the first step to get out of existential insecurity, as males, is understanding that The Meaning of our life comes through the recognition of this Gift that Man has given to Humanity.
Be grateful for the fire, for running water, penicillin, automobiles, the Internet, the Constitutions, and peace. Be grateful to Your Ancestors, to the brave Men who came before us.
Respect them. Remember them.
A humanity without memory of the past is a humanity without a future.
AWARENESS VIDEOS (YEAR 2008)
- THE FRIENDSHIP OF MEN: BROTHERHOOD, MODERN MASCULINITY
Let us take back control of ourselves, bringing peace and brotherhood back to the world. No one can do it like us, and without us, no one can do it
- SONS OF AN ABSENT FATHER: TO STOP THE SILENCE BETWEEN FATHERS AND CHILDREN
- FATHER TO SON: A SON FINDS HIS WAY BACK TO THE VITAL ENERGY OF HIS FATHER, FATHERS AND ANCESTORS
A father and son meet as adults, talking and finally understanding each other.. understanding each other's loneliness, deciding to end the silence, united forever, flesh and spirit, the line of humanity flowing between ancestors and descendants. They're proud, and happy now.
Official Page of the Video: https://paternita.info/fatherhood/father
- PSYCHOLOGICAL VIOLENCE, HIDDEN EVIL: AWARENESS DOCUMENTARY
An abused and confused mind loses control of existance, vital functions, falls into depression. Psychological violence is not yet recognized and punished. Do not allow anyone to destroy the identity your are building..
- THE IMPORTANT MESSAGE: THE WAR OF THE PAST, THE WAR OF TODAY
" The perfect dictatorship would have the appearance of a democracy but would basically be a prison without walls in which the prisoners would not even dream of escaping. Through consumption and entertainment, the slaves would love their servitude. " -- Aldous Huxley, George Orwell (1930/50)
BROTHERHOOD AND FRIENDSHIP: THE FACE OF THE MAN IN FRONT OF YOU
(we're sons of the same father.. of the same sky)
Searching the spirit of the father.. we often find our inner child and the feeling of brotherhood.
This is perhaps the highest moment we can reach as men and as a civilization.
Brotherhood is harmony, sense of belonging.
It is what firmly binds us to humanity and the timeless journey it makes in the universe.
It's what completes us, makes happiness last, our happiness and that of others.
What is a man without friendship? And Society? Is it the same thing to go out and meet a friend or not meet anyone?
Man needs friendship to continue living, to hope for the future and to be able to build it as best as possible, in peace and serenity.
Apathy or Hate.. they are basically the same thing, and there is only one antidote: friendship.
We no longer have a choice. Not today.
Not now because we understood that no goods or wealth can ever save us, no democracy or freedom will be able to console our loneliness, sadness, oblivion.. without that fresh, vigorous and prosperous wind, which is friendship, which passes through the heart and awakens us, brings us back to life.
Whoever has experienced friendship knows that they will be able to walk away with the feeling of having touched the sky with a finger, the pinnacle of joy, the purpose of everything, the meaning of the universe.
The mystery of life is contained in the gaze of men, a mystery, that like a face, can never be completely understood, but you can look at it, with enthusiasm, respect, esteem and trust, and than.. just wait.. and everything mysteriously will start all over again.. the dance of life that takes us by the hand and leads us into the future.
ENEMIES OF MASCULINITY
An ancient Arab proverb: hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times.
- 1) Individualism, Relativism and post-'68 Libertarianism:
The Italian Constitution of 1948 speaks of Collective rights prevailing over individual rights. The Community wellness comes before the individual wellness. In a few decades the Rule has been subverted.
Society today is based on ego, collective rights have been dramatically forgotten, the right of one prevails over the right of many, we live in inequality and social injustice.
We are misanthropes, so the Occident has been overwhelmed by the plague of depression which in a few decades has become the leading cause of human disability (source, WHO 2022).
These are, in summary, the 3 STEPS of modern mental decay: Psychologism (veneration of psychology at the expense of other disciplines) which brings Subjectivism (my inner feeling is the objective and indisputable truth) which brings Narcissism (egocentrism and alienation we suffer today).
On the contrary, in a Society dedicated to the care of the community, people wake up in the morning happy, without having to ask themselves obsessively "What do I get up for?" "Why do I have to do things?" as happens to the Western population today, we must therefore rediscover a simple concept: There can be no motivation in life if it is not for the benefit of others.
- 2) Woke, Consumering and Cancel Culture:
The way in which the currently dominant ideologies erase our history, our memory, the culture of the past: Christianity is evil, the Father-and-Mother family is evil, biological differences between men and women are evil, this knowledge must be eliminated from books, from schools, from TV, as if it had never existed.
Cancel Culture doesn't want to make us think, or reason, but it wants to create a void in us, to cut off our human and spiritual roots to make us fragile and predisposed to slavery towards new rising Powers.
- 3) Feminism and Antifamilism:
feminism is a mental disorder many are saying today. Feminism is a very simple ideology: it says woman is superior to man and must rule the world. No cooperation or friendship with men, they are considered inferior.
Through aggressive propaganda, victimhood and cunning, false information, It brainwashed the masses by convincing them that men are violent, they do not have to be respected, they must be arrested preventively, like a herd of beasts.
Feminism has created a Gender Apartheid (like Ethnic Apartheid in Africa in the 20th century) unconstitutional laws and funding, pink quotas and privileges for women, actions that cost 40 billion a year to Italian citizens. The more relevant: the "right of repudiation" -
at any point in the relationship, a woman can, with a snap of her fingers, separate a man from his children, his family home, making him destitute, needy and without dignity.
Man is marginalized today, guinea pig for dirty, deadly jobs (thousands of workplace deaths and serious injuries every year). The woman raises her sons alone and fatherless, to create a feminist imprinting that prepares the future male to be the perfect servant of women.
For further information: https://ilfemminismo.blogspot.com/2012/03/feminism.html.
- 4) Immorality and Non-Ethics:
They've convinced us that "morality" is outdated, retrograde, ridiculous. In reality, Ethics is fundamental
. Ethics are all those moral principles we create to survive to ourselves.
For thousands of years there has been war, violence and degradation: the human being like an animal wanted power over the other, privileges, man killed man, populations exterminated populations... humanity self-destructed.
Some first Enlightened people began to talk about Ethics: philosophers, religious men, men who tried to stop the carnage and bestiality.. but the wars continued for millennia, until the last ones, the two world wars, where hundreds of millions of people were killed and tortured, entire nations and cities were cancelled and razed to the ground.
So, on the brink of extinction.. the human being understood that he had to do something about his dark side: the first modern Constitutions and the Universal Charter of Human Rights were born. It was 1948.
Whenever Ethics are removed from Society, human beings would immediately return to being irrational, aggressive and predatory beasts, as is in fact happening now in the West.
Pyramids may be eroded and we'll remain a good humanity, but if our wisdom is eroded we will have no future.
Even in the year 10,000, we will continue to be born animals without becoming human beings if there is no Family and Society to educate and guide us.
For further information: https://www.facebook.com/groups/cooperazione - our Personal and Community growth group
- 5) Modernity: The Veneration of Psychology (and Manipulation):
While we know the thousand-years history of Ethics and Philosophy, Psychology is a new discipline (not a science) that has spread especially in the last few decades, and We don't know yet what this entails and its real impact.
While Ethics provides a rational measurement of things and events, Psychology often gives an approximate and confused interpretation due to an exaggerated use of subjectivity.
Psychology was developed in the 20th century by men as a tool of thoughts investigation.. it has been elevated Today as a panacea for all ills and has become the main tool for investigating, narrating and representing Society, but It wasn't born for this... it doesn't have the scientific characteristics to carry out this task.
Psychology applied to jurisprudence, for example, is transforming the certainty of the law into emotional sentences and verditcts creating injustice and loss of reasoning in people.
The stability of reason isreplaced at every turn by the unmanageable storm of feeling, the logic of the mind is replaced by the irrationality of the stomach.
You can say everything and the opposite of everything.. whoever shouts the loudest will be considered more credible (..), the truth is no longer a real and certain fact but an act of fantasy at the service of our whims.. do you realize what this entails?
Psychologization, or psychologism, has made us less transparent, manipulative, and sneaky, less cooperative and sociable, brainy, stressed. The same psychotherapeutic paths last decades and are of little use without other disciplines and sciences like philosophy, history, anthropology, etc..
I wrote in my last book: " Psychology as it is used today is a dead end.
It convinces us that Subjective Reality is the only thing that exists, to the detriment of Objective Reality. We believe our Subjective Reality, a collection of perceptions and beliefs, is the TRUE Reality.
Thus we close ourselves in our shell and clump of thoughts, completely alienating ourselves from TRUE Reality which is fundamentally made up of Objective Reality, facts.
In today's society this translates into pathological asociality, narcissism and selfishness, replacement of collective rights with individual rights only (this means the disappearance of all solid and enduring forms of aggregation), and the spread of depression we know the main antidote is relationships, philanthropy and sociality.
Therefore, mere psychology, if not accompanied by ethics - morality, law, philosophy, science - has no value. "
In conclusion: happiness is not linked, as they would have you believe, to the sole understanding of the psyche and obsessive love for oneself but it's mainly linked to our ethical values, and whether these are altruistic.
SOME OTHER MEN'S PROBLEMS
In Europe, men have a worse quality of life than women. For all Causes of Death, Men rates are higher than Women rates in Europe (source, EUROSTAT 2011).
From deaths at work to homelessness, from school dropouts to the over 3,000 suicides per year in Italy alone (yes, every day, while you are reading these lines, 8 boys, men or fathers end their lives...), from domestic and psychological violence to addictions to substances, gambling and sex, from social pressures to millions of indigent separated fathers.
There is also the phenomenon of men being singles not by choice (in-cel), one in three adult males is single in Europe, rejected by women (in violation of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, establishing "the right to marry and found a family") due to excessively high and often toxic feminine standards.
In recent times, Italy celebrated International Men's Day for the first time. This video briefly illustrates some of the main male problems.
- 19/11 INTERNATIONAL MEN'S DAY: AN ITALIAN VIDEO
The Official Website of International Men's Day (IMD ITALY): http://paternita.info/festadelluomo
PATERNAL ABSENCE: THE COSTS
In recent decades, the Institution of the Family (Father and Mother) has been gradually dismantled, resulting in the progressive Ethical and Cultural decline of individuals and Society.
All researches and statistics (but also common sense helps) allow us to understand why most suicides, homicides, crimes, violence, bullying, mental diseases, use of drugs and alcohol, school and marriage failures, etc., are due to the father's absence. It is shown that a child with no parents or with only one parent is 5-10 times more prone to such problems.
In Italy, the cost of paternal absence is estimated at around 40-55 billion euro each year.
SOURCES OF INSPIRATION
- Nature: our metronome.
- Religions: for the centrality of the traditional family.
- Ethics: the need for Rules for Harmony and Peace among Peoples.
- Philosophy: the necessary reflection on Humanity and its Direction (considering we're just like little ants in front of the universe).
- Egalitarianism: equality for citizens, workers, barrier to wild capitalism and money addiction.
- Science: for the study of natural phenomena and progress of the civilization (only if at the service of humanity and humans, as Tesla said).
- more..
APHORISMS
"Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value."
(Albert Einstein)
"Our heart is like a Village. If you don't populate it with happy and brave men... you will hardly meet them outside."
(The Tribe Inside Me, Fabio Barzagli)
"I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father's protection."
(Sigmund Freud)
"Nature is our Metronome. You will find something more in woods than in books. Trees and stones will teach you that which you can never learn from masters."
(Saint Bernard of Clairvaux)
"Una guerra a cui non ero abituato, essendo vissuto per più di 25 anni in Asia, era la guerra dei sessi, combattuta in una direzione soltanto: le donne contro gli uomini."
(Tiziano Terzani, Un altro giro di giostra, year 2004)
"Happiness is difficult without a Father, incomplete without a Son, unthinkable without Friendship."
(Paternita.info/Fatherhood)
"A single parent's child has only one opinion (mental plagiarism, cloning); a child with both parents normally discussing and exchanging ideas will listen two opinions. It takes at least two for the child to feel the need to form one of his own"
(Fabio Barzagli, Educational Ideas v.02, PATERNITA.INFO PUBLISHING, year 2008)
"He who can be a good son will be a good father."
(anonymous)
SUGGESTED SITES
SUGGESTED BOOKS
Diventare Padre, Fabio Barzagli (italian language). Iron John, Robert Bly (free on www.Paternita.info/fatherhood). Storia della Paternità, Maurizio Quilici (italian language). The Strong Woman's Desire for a Strong Man, Maja Storch. Consapevolezza, Fabio Barzagli (italian language). King Solomon's Ring, Konrad Lorenz. The Penguin Krishnamurti Reader, Jiddu Krishnamurti.
" Humanity is like a Line.. which starts from our Ancestors and.. passing through Us.. reaches down to our descendants. The Meaning of life is to find your place in the Line. "
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